Grief is not predictable and does not follow a schedule. You can feel something one minute and completely different the next. Use the week to work through the emotions and reflect.She called back and told me I could have the days. So I'm off this week and won't miss any pay, which is very nice. She also asked that I bring something in that shows I'm his son, like an obituary or something. My Dad was very clear he didn't want a service so I can't bring one of those cards but I told her I could bring the death certificate. At first she said that wouldn't do but then when I explained the service thing she said just bring that if it's all I have. My Aunts & Uncle will likely help me put an obituary in the paper so I'll bring that if it happens too.
Also, I now feel guilty that I'm happy I have the week off. It's like I think, "Hey I now have a week off work, sweet! vacation!." But then I remember I should be sad all the time and feel bad.
I think I'm in full on DABDA at this point: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, just not sure what stage at the moment cause I feel all 5 of those things right now.
I'm moving this over here because it's the thread I will probably come back to read through at some point.Is everything going ok? There's the planning for the services, sorting out the apartment, and all of that other stuff. I know he had a lot of stuff worked out, but it can still be overwhelming.
Yup. That's exactly what he did it for. He made that clear. Hopefully I won't have to use it before then...it would have to be a very serious emergency.you should be looking at a good head-start on your retirement
Not sure if I mentioned this before but Hendrik downsized because at his place the rent you pay in independent living is the same rent you pay if you have to go to the assisted living facility where all the units are studios. He started out with my mom in a 3 bedroom that they converted into a 2br with a large living room, then went to a real 2 bedroom when she died and then went to a studio after that. It was a smart idea. Frugal, like I said.My folks hadn't really thought about downsizing.