i've reread this a few times. thanks for the honesty.You're not going to get me to rehash my train wreck of a 1st marriage. But it involved years of pain, trauma, tragedy, deception, courts, law enforcement, jail, neglect, child welfare, judges, lawyers, illegitimacy, theft, destruction, financial ruin, disinheritance, and irreparable breakup of family.
I made it through, got my life back together, met someone great, and was able to provide a good childhood for my kids. I think all of us have had a lot of shit to deal with at times.
in times like this it's nice to have a friend.